Gaining perspective on the ways that pornography affects marriage and family life requires an honest discussion about the dynamics of the relationship to begin with. In addition to this, consideration of the most common scenarios played out in pornographic flicks and the attitudes of the characters which are portrayed has an effect upon the attitudes and behaviors of the viewer. More commonly, pornography has a negative impact and often creates a situation of pornography vs. marriage and family life.
Characteristics of a stable marriage and family life
By nature, humans meet, feel strong sexual attraction to partners, fulfill the drive to produce children and fall in love. We crave the approval, respect, commitment and understanding of partners. Exclusivity and sexual desire are natural expectations within mainstream society. Couples make a physical and emotional investment in one another along with a joint effort in rearing children.
How pornography undermines the stability of marital relationships
In general, pornography offers distorted views of sexuality and places monogamy as an undesirable trait. The act of lovemaking with a partner in a wholesome monogamous relationship is degenerated to baser acts that often place women in the role of the object of lust rather than a loving partner that is respected or admired. Pornography has a tendency to attack the values of monogamous marriage and raising children in a stable home. Cheating and betrayal is another theme that is recurring in pornographic flicks. All of these factors combine to cast pornography into an adversarial role with a stable marriage and family life.
The type of pornography affects its impact on couples
Some couples enjoy watching a soft porn flick to help stimulate their sexual intimacy. When this is a mutual agreement between partners, there is less likelihood of negative impact. Hard core porn on the other hand is by design more aggressive, sometimes violent and encourages attitudes that are in opposition to those required for a loving and mutually respectful union.
Hard core pornography and infidelity
The use of hard core porn is widely viewed as an act of emotional infidelity. Becoming aroused by sexual stimulation from someone other than a committed partner translates into cheating in the opinions of the majority of people. Both men and women have reported experiencing a sense of betrayal when their partners engage in hard core pornographic use.
Pornography has the strong potential for negatively impacting an otherwise stable marriage and family life. The damage begins as attitudes towards intimacy and relationships are influenced by the counter values expressed through hard core porn. It has the potential for hurting all members of the family by undermining family values.